Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues & Codependency

You've always been the one who helps. The one who shows up, listens, manages the household, keeps things together when your partner is struggling. This is what love looks like to you; showing up, taking care of everything, holding it together when they can't.

But lately, you're realizing something has shifted. Maybe your partner's drinking has gotten worse and you're constantly managing the fallout—covering for them, worrying about their choices, trying to fix what you can't control. Maybe you've become so focused on your partner's needs, their problems, their emotions that you've completely lost track of your own. You feel like a shell of who you used to be.

You're exhausted. You're resentful. And you're starting to realize that no matter how much you do, you can't make someone else change. Caring deeply about someone doesn't mean you have to lose yourself in the process. You deserve support, too.

Therapy can help you understand the patterns that led here, set boundaries that feel possible, and rediscover who you are outside of taking care of everyone else.

How this might be showing up for you:

In your relationship:

• Managing your partner's emotions and taking responsibility for their happiness
• Navigating substance use—covering for them, making excuses, trying to control their drinking or recovery
• Accepting harmful behavior because being alone feels worse
• Feeling like you're the only one holding everything together

In yourself:

• Your sense of worth depends on what you give or fix for others
• Lost track of who you are and what YOU actually want
• Building resentment even though you keep giving
• Feeling anxious when you're not fixing or helping
• Identity is so wrapped up in others, you don't recognize yourself anymore

In your daily life:

• Can't say no even when you're drowning
• Constantly over-functioning and caretaking
• Putting everyone else's needs before your own
• Exhausted from trying to control things you can't control

What we can work on together:

• Identifying what YOU need and want (separate from others)
• Exploring boundaries and what they might look like for you
• Understanding patterns of over-functioning and caretaking
• Processing anxiety around others' emotions and choices
• Discovering what healthy relationships could feel like
• Rediscovering who you are outside of taking care of everyone else

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Thinking about taking the next step?
I offer free consultations to talk through what you're experiencing, and explore whether we'd be a good fit in working together. You can schedule one below.