Relationship Therapy & Codependency Therapy in Mashpee, MA

You have always been the one who shows up.

The one who listens, helps, and holds everything together. The one who puts everyone else first without even thinking about it, because that is just who you are. That is what love looks like to you. Showing up, taking care of things, being there no matter what.

But lately something feels off. Maybe you have become so focused on your partner's needs, your family's feelings, or keeping everyone around you okay, that you have completely lost track of yourself. You feel like a shell of who you used to be. You give and give and somehow still feel like it is never quite enough.

You are exhausted. You are resentful. And somewhere underneath all of it, you are starting to wonder when it became so hard to know what you actually want.

You are not broken. You are someone who learned that love means putting others first. That pattern made sense once. But it has cost you something, and you deserve to get it back.

Therapy can help you understand the patterns that brought you here, reconnect with your own needs, and rediscover who you are outside of taking care of everyone else.

How this might be showing up for you:

In your relationship:

• Taking responsibility for your partner's emotions and happiness
• Accepting behavior that doesn't feel okay because being alone feels worse
• Feeling like you are the only one holding everything together
• Giving everything you have and quietly building resentment
• Struggling to ask for what you need or to feel like your needs even matter

In yourself:

• Your sense of worth is tied to what you give, fix, or do for others
• You have lost track of who you are and what you actually want
• You feel anxious when you are not helping, fixing, or managing something
• Your identity has become so wrapped up in others that you barely recognize yourself
• You know something needs to change but you are not sure where to even start

In your daily life:

• You cannot say no even when you are completely depleted
• You are constantly over-functioning and caretaking
• Everyone else's needs come first, always
• You are exhausted from trying to manage and control things that are not yours to carry

What we can work on together:

• Understanding the patterns of codependency and where they came from
• Identifying what you actually need and want, separate from everyone else
• Exploring what boundaries could look like for you
• Processing anxiety around other people's emotions and choices
• Building a sense of self that doesn't depend on what you do for others
• Discovering what healthy, reciprocal relationships could actually feel like

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• How to Ask for Help When You're Used to Doing It All Alone

Thinking about taking the next step? 

As a relationship therapist, I offer free consultations to talk through what you're experiencing and explore whether we would be a good fit working together. You can schedule one below.